Spidey-sense

To the Women (and Men) Who Need This Reminder:

If something feels off, trust that.
If someone—man or woman—makes you uncomfortable, even if you can’t explain why, you have every right to place a boundary.

So many times, I’ve had that spidey-sense—an inner “ick” I couldn’t quite put my finger on. Outwardly, everything might have seemed fine, but inside, something felt wrong. And when I listened to that feeling and set a boundary, I often watched people get annoyed, try to guilt me, or find ways to go around it.

But every time that happened, it only confirmed that the boundary needed to be there in the first place.

I believe many women (and men too!) have been hurt in this space. Our intuition has been dismissed, minimized, or gaslit—by others and sometimes even by ourselves. But our gut is wise. Whether our instincts are “right” or not in someone else's eyes doesn’t matter. What matters is that we honor what feels true to us in the moment.

Here’s the thing:
When someone sets a boundary with you, whether you understand it or agree with it, the respectful response isn’t to argue or push—it’s to allow. To give space. To let that person move through what they’re moving through.

To every woman (and man) reading this:
Your boundaries are valid. Your discomfort is reason enough.
You don’t have to explain, justify, or apologize for protecting your peace.